Friday, January 30, 2015

Self love is the true answer.

You always see "You must love yourself before loving someone else." Or you have seen some version of that saying.

The truth behind this is deeper than "Love yourself or you can't love your husband."

The truth is, you can not understand the Universal meaning of "Love" until you understand self love. Once you can understand that everything else will make sense when happiness is the question. THAT is the truth.

Always.


Day Break

My Anam Cara (Soul Sister) Keiara and I have been going through a spiritual growth together. Our entire friendship has always ran parallel which each other in a eerie kind of way but never have we been sync'd in life so perfectly.

Why do I start this blog with that? Because something big is happening to all of us in the world. Something very positive, spiritual  and uplifting. Something that the world and humanity has needed for sometime.

 Keiara and I talk about this "change/movement" daily. We talk about how beautiful it is to see the positive energy just working itself out and we talk about how wonderful it is to not only see the light at the end of the tunnel but to actually be standing it that light and taking in its peaceful energy.

The point of this blog is to keep track of this wonderful time.

"But life still sucks and bad things are still happening! How can you be calm and say good things are happening?! Are you friggin mad?! A man threw his baby off a bridge! What good is left in the world?!"

This is something you might be thinking as you read this. But I know its something Im thinking as Im typing it out.

Life sucks, people suck, bad things happen, people get hurt and children are dying. This is all true and very sad. I used to sit around and think about all horrible things that are happening around the world and how *I* was a horrible person because *I* wasn't doing enough, if anything to change all these bad things. I dont do that anymore.

Now I positively accept the negative around me. Instead of allowing the sadness of the worlds troubles shove me down into a pit of depression as I fight the urge to cry and scream. Now I allow myself to feel the sadness, accept that *I* alone can not change everything and then I let those feelings go and move on with my day. I am not ignoring how I feel nor am I masking it. I simply live in that moment and move on.

For Keiara and I, "Being in the moment" seems to be our motto during this growth. This Zen/Buddist method allows you to stop(have more control?) living in the past and living in the future but rather living right now.

If you are like me this is a normal morning in your head,
wake up
"Ok I gotta get up. Get the boys up. Make breakfast, Dont forget the homework, Take a shower. Clean the kitchen...."
And this was all happening in my head before my feet hit the floor and would continue this way all day and all night.Rinse and repeat. I had no idea what day it was half the time and ask me when is the last time I ate something that wasn't half of my 6 years olds dinner. My life, although seemingly put together from a day to day point of view, was a spiritual and emotional mess. I was worried about things that weren't going to happen for months from now that I forgot to stop and look around at the beautiful life we are building around each other. All the hard work we put into each and everyday for a nice home and happy family, I wasn't enjoying at all.

Once I realized I was sabotaging myself my whole life has been changing for the better. I am more aware of the mundane small things that love to distract you from the life you should be enjoying.

I hope to help others during their spiritual growth even if its just a few helpful words. My purpose in life and in the Universe, is to help, guide and teach and that makes me happy.

Lets start allowing ourselves to enjoy "The Now" and live happier.